Flowers.....

So on the Friday before Valentine’s I get 2 bouquets of flowers delivered at work.

Conversation with the manchild yesterday (on the phone as I was coming home from work)…..

Manchild: Mother…

Me: Yes

Manchild: from a son to his mother, will you do me a solid?

Me (skeptical at this point): Ummm what?

Manchild: Well, you got flowers today, and you have ENOUGH flowers so…….

Me: So you want to take my flowers?!?

Manchild: Yes!

Me (not knowing the type of flowers I received): Well what do they look like?

Manchild: Orange and yellow and white

Me: Well let me think about it and see them when I get home

I get home – ROSES!  18 ROSES (assorted colors) and the boy wants to take MY flowers  to give to his little girlfriend – with whom, he has informed me, that he will be taking to the Prom in April.

Yes, after giving him a really hard time, I let him take them to his sweetheart.

Yep – I am MOTHER OF THE YEAR material – just go ahead and nominate me now (and its only February).

Just can't get along

There is just no getting along.  Nope.  None.  Can’t even do it.  I will admit, I did try once.  Ok maybe twice but the reality is – he walks around like he is Mr. Untouchable.  He can do whatever the hell he wants and get away with it.  And, he has on many levels, gotten away with it.

New years’s day – idiot starts blowing up my phone with text messages.  Cussing me.  Being belligerent.  Basically being the ass that he is.  Later that day I get an email.  A one liner. 

Subject: FYI

I have accepted a new job and will be moving out of state.  All contact information will remain the same. 

Annnnnnd then it clicked…….    Now IF he did made this choice on his own, then she has to quit to follow him OR find a job to transfer to in the same location (which looks suspicious if she does it really soon).  Either way…..he is going to be spending some time away from her – its only a matter of time before he starts cheating on her.   Now he gets to go do what he’s always done and she gets to be the one waiting at home for a cheater.  I find it amusing

Funny thing is, he wouldn’t tell me for the longest time where he was moving to.  I think it’s quite funny.  He has gone so far as to remove his “signature” from his email at work so I won’t find out.   But I knew it was only a matter of time before he would forget to remove the signature and so that day has come.  This week.   He is now living in St. Louis, MO! 

Writing

Starting back in the late summer / early fall I was inspired to write.  I have an idea for a book and the inspiration comes in spurts.  There are times that I could spend all day writing and others the inspiration is not there.  It’s an interesting concept for a book but I am not ready to talk about the details just yet.  I will say that what I am writing really happened and right now I am just writing it as it goes.  I will go back later and change the names and places and maybe add a little here and there to make it readable (it is a fiction book after all) and make it flow better.  But the majority of it really happened.  To.Me.   

I have gone back a time or two and read what I have already written and its freaking amazing to me that all of these things happened to one person much less to me!  Some good, some bad, some just completely unbelievable.

Will I ever publish this great American novel that I am working on? Perhaps - but that is a loooong looooong looooooooong way down the road.

Clean Up and Clean Out

With the coming of the new year, its time to clean up and clean out.  I started this weekend with the garage.  Problem is, the ex left a lot of crap in there and I don’t know if any of it should be kept or not (meaning is it needed for the various leaf blowers, weed whackers, etc).  I just don’t know but I don’t want to look at it either.  I do have two helmets that need a good home though.

There is a lot of stuff in the closet in the spare room and in the storage area upstairs that needs to be gone through as well.  Since he moved out, anything left in this house (that he didn’t come back and steal later) that used to belong to him, now belongs to me.  For what can’t be donated, sold or given away, I see a big bon fire in my near future. Just sayin’. 

Holidays

It’s sort of interesting to start a blog during the holiday season and while going through a divorce.  Going into the holidays this year I really didn’t know how I would feel or what to expect.  As you know, I make it a point to stay positive in my life.  Sure day to day things get to me every now and then as it would anyone.  But I make a choice each and every day to be happy.  Going into Thanksgiving I was fine.  Then I was hit with something I didn’t expect.  Pictures.  Of the soon to be ex and the mistress he left me for with MY kids playing “happy family”.  Didn’t expect to see that all over my Facebook.  I won’t lie, it didn’t sit well.  Now, to be fair, it wasn’t the ex that posted the pics – it was his sister in law but it doesn’t make it any less offensive.

As the Christmas season rolled in, I found myself without much holiday spirit.  I decorated the house a little bit but I didn’t have a tree.  I didn't decorate my office at work.  I wasn’t in the mood to shop.  I have yet to listen to one Christmas song or watch one Christmas movie.  Not one.  Depressed?  No, not really as I do have happiness in my heart for a lot of reasons.  Just weird.   I enjoyed it for what it was.  And it is always good to spend time with friends and family that you know care about you. And we did laugh  - y'all saw the FB posts.  It was just weird.   But, I survived. 

Now, as the New Year approaches, I can say I am truly filled with hope and anticipation.  The divorce will be final and I can close out that chapter of my life.  The new one I am writing for myself moving forward is so much better anyway.

Let's do it!

Welcome to the new blog.  The formatting and background is a work in progress and may take longer to tweak than I would like.  It seems things have changed a wee bit since I last created a page and well, I have to update my template skills.

As I was thinking about what I was going to blog about and how I was going to go about writing it, I decided that if I was going to get back into the world of blogging it was going to be just as it was before – REAL.  Names will be changed or nicknames will be given so that I can openly write.  Just as before, there will be times that the posts will be funny, but this time around I think I want to get a little deeper from time to time. 

This blog is for me.  Although you may be entertained here and there (and I hope you are), ultimately it is for me.  A place to just get what is rolling around in my head out into the world (scary thought I know).  It has been a real treat for me to go back to my older blog and see that I did it for almost 6 years.   Reading the daily events and happenings.  Little trivial things that seem to have happened a lifetime ago and yet were so interesting.

As many of you reading may know (or may have deduced from my sometimes not very cryptic Facebook posts), I am on in the midst of a very ugly, very nasty and still ongoing divorce.  I will probably be talking about that.  If I give details, it’s because I need to get it out so remember, this blog is for me and if I need to say something, then I am going to do it.  Also, I am now for the first time in my adult life (well my life in general), dating.  A woman in her early 40’s dating for the first time. Think about that for a second.  And yep,  I will be talking about that (ohhhh the stories I could already tell and quite frankly when I was thinking of blogging again I was going to just do a dating blog – but I have more to talk about than that).  I am still the neighborhood cat lady.  I will be talking about that.  

There will be a comments section and I expect that you will use it.  If you want to know something, ask me. 

Let the blogging begin……